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You don’t have to do this alone!

Message to teens: “Tell them something!”

Teens covet their privacy. They want to nurture their independence and put up a wall to keep others out. We’ve all seen the well-known “KEEP OUT” sign on the bedroom doors of teenagers’ bedrooms worldwide.  Parents are often easily labelled “annoying” because they are curious. Yes, parents can hover and be overprotective at times. I’m going to give them the benefit of the doubt; most of the time parents are coming from a place of love and care.

Communicating with other family members and not locking yourself in your room are reasonable and basic expectations in healthy family dynamics.  As a parent of two young adult children, I have had my own challenge of respecting their boundaries.  I have found the solution to quell my curiosity. We figured out that “some information is enough.” Let me in just a little bit. Tell me something. I want to know because I love you and care about you.

Parents just want to be let in, even just a little. The best way to get your parents off your back is to “TELL THEM SOMETHING!” Try it.

Alison Stevelman, LCSW