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You don’t have to do this alone!

No Sweet Talk

No sweet talk.  No small talk.

Don’t sugar coat it. Tell your therapist exactly how bad it is. Tell them how much it hurts. Tell them it makes you feel hopeless and tell them you are thinking about killing yourself. Most people who think about suicide assume “everyone does.” That’s not true. NOT everybody thinks about killing themselves. It is NOT normal and it is NOT ok. It is dangerous and very important that you talk about this.

Don’t wait till your next appointment. Call them now. Ask for help. Psychiatric treatment is not casual and laid back. If you are thinking about wanting to die, I urge you to tell someone immediately.

We can take it. Clinicians would rather hear the truth about how much pain you’re in than find out after the fact, when it’s too late.  People can do “everything right.” They take their meds, keep their appointments, go to sleep and wake up at the same time every day, and still have a relapse in their mental illness. Not wanting to disappoint their therapist is something I hear too often. Don’t let feeling shame and guilt when depression returns get in your way of reaching out for help.   Guilt has no place here. This is a matter of life and death. We want to know you are struggling. We want to know you are in pain. We want to know so we can help you. Let us!